Stop Trying to Be Liked and Start Being You

Stop Trying To Be Liked and Start Being You
No one likes to hear the words, “I don’t like you.” Some people will do almost anything to be liked, even at the expense of their own happiness, values, beliefs and standards.

Some people’s overwhelming need to be liked is what makes them hard to like in the first place. In fact, for many of us, the need to be liked is actually a significant barrier to personal and professional growth.

Not everyone is going to like you, and that’s OK.

No one likes to hear the words, I don’t like you

While it’s normal to want to be needed, liked, loved and important to others, it’s crucial to get clear about who you are, what you stand for and to live a life consistent with those values. When it comes to tackling this, you might want to ask yourself:

Do I speak the truth (while still exercising care, wisdom and understanding) even if isn’t popular to do so?
Yes       No

Do I live a life consistent with my core values?
Yes       No

Do I operate with integrity?
Yes       No

Do I believe my motives are good?
Yes       No

Is it my goal to be a positive influence in the lives of others?
   Yes       No

Am I happy to disagree with people I like?
Yes       No

Do I (really) like me?
   Yes       No

The last question is probably the most important of all of them. You can’t give something you don’t have. When you’re OK, it’s amazing how much better everyone else around you seems to be.

If you answered “no” more often than “yes,” you may want to make a few changes. The first one being the realization that you are OK just the way you are and truly are powerful beyond measure.  

If you really want to be liked, then stop trying to be liked and start being you.


Brett Penagerr